Hey everyone! I am in the middle of updating my blog to make it easier on the eye! SO, if you are experience difficulties that is why! This should all be done my tonight!
Thanks
Kristin
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Overwhelmed, Overworked and Over It!
One woman’s solution to the crisis of the modern day woman
An interview with Christine Arylo, self-love expert. Written by Sara Batterson.
Feed the kids. Get a raise. Loose the weight. Clean the house. Wear the lingerie. Whew! It is tiring being a woman these days. We have more opportunities, self-confidence and independence than any generation of women before, yet something isn’t working. Why is it so exhausting? How is it that the last 30 years of unparalleled equality has also had the unintended impact of liberating women into a new jail cell?
The answer is pretty straightforward according to Christine Arylo, recovering achievement junkie and doing addict turned inspirational catalyst, author, coach and speaker…we are currently experiencing a “crisis of self-love.”
“Women today face challenges and pressures like no other generation,” she says. “The 21st century woman has more opportunities, self-confidence and independence than any generation of women before, yet something isn’t working. While this woman knows she can do anything, she feels a tremendous pressure to do, be and have everything.”
A recent study by Time Magazine states that 40% of women are the major breadwinners in their families, and 55% report that they still take care of most of the responsibilities at home. Add to that fact that 68% of women see a conflict between working and raising a family, and you can understand why so many women are exhausted, overwhelmed and no happier than their mothers and grandmothers were in the 1970s.
While more self-esteem programs are taught to girls all over this country, one in three women will be in an abusive relationship before she is 20, 80% will return. One in five women will struggle with some type of an eating disorder. Almost 50% of women will go through a divorce.
“The state of being a woman in today’s world is at a point of crisis, one in which women find themselves abundant in self-confidence, but lacking in a deep and unwavering sense of self-love, void of the societal systems to support the demands she faces every day, and a missing the camaraderie and unconditional support of other women,” Arylo says. “This lifestyle is unsustainable. We all feel it. We all know it. The time is now to bring the generations of wisdom together to do something about it.”
Arylo is on a mission to tear down the walls of misconception about self-love and reclaim its real definition.
“If you actually look up the definition of self-love on dictionary.com it say’s ‘vanity, conceit, and narcissism.’ It’s crazy! We wouldn’t tell our kids, ‘Hey you, don’t take care of yourself, don’t love yourself, don’t make your happiness a priority.’ But we tell ourselves that all the time,” she says.
While writing her book Choosing Me Before We, Every Woman’s Guide to Life and Love Arylo decided that what women needed was a self-love movement, something that could raise the awareness of self-love, making it a tangible and attainable reality for all women and girls. And so in 2009, she founded Madly in Love with ME™, the international movement of self-love.
About Madly in Love with ME™
Madly in Love with ME launches every year on the day before Valentine’s Day. On February 13th Arylo asks every woman and girl to make a promise of self-love to herself for the year, and to recommit to a life-long self-love promise to know and honor what her heart and soul desire, never settling for less.
“Without self-love, we end up in relationships and lives that don’t support or respect us, that take more than they give and that reflect our own lack of deep unconditional love for the woman we are right now, today.” she says.
To inspire and support women to take this challenge, in 2010, Madly in Love with ME events will take place on February 13th in 4 major cities – San Francisco, Chicago, Orlando and San Diego www.madlyinlovewithme.com/events These ‘Self-Luvapalooza’s’ make self-love a tangible reality for women through experiences, talks, performances, and interactive exercises led by amazing women who have struggled with and overcome the same challenges. Women who attend the flagship San Francisco event at the Claremont Resort and Spa, will spend the day with some of the top transformational teachers and performers of our time, including Marci Shimoff from The Secret and best-selling author SARK.
If the Madly in Love with Me event is not hosted in your town, Arylo encourages every woman to throw your own self-love soiree’. She’s developed an entire kit full of daring yet practical ways to bring more self-love into your life. Download the kit for free at www.madlyinlovewithme.com.
“Get clear about the areas that you do love about yourself and the areas that you don’t,” Arylo says. “Put energy into both and make it a practice.”
Arylo encourages women to start with a 40-day self-love practice in any area of her life needing more self-love – having better relationships, taking care of yourself first, treating your body like a temple, expressing yourself fully. “The yogis, metaphysicians and brain scientists agree,” explains Arylo, “that if you can do anything for 40 days you can alter patterns and beliefs that have the power to change your life.”
Arylo gives an example of a 40-day self–love practice focused on relationships.
“Ask yourself, ‘Does every relationship in my life honor and respect me?’ If the answer is no, you owe it to yourself to straighten out those relationships, or let go of the ones you can’t improve. There is no reason to have a relationship in your life that doesn’t support you to be the best you or create the life you want to live. The only reason to have a relationship is because it helps you be a better person, or it helps you live your dreams.”
“Be honest with yourself. So many of us say our lives are ‘fine’ but when you truly look at our relationships – friendships, romantic relationships, relatives – that really isn’t the case. We often refuse to face the truth because we are afraid of what the truth will require us to do. For example, we aren’t really afraid to end a relationship, we are more afraid of what people will think. We are deathly afraid of being alone. And many people can’t handle feeling like a failure. But, self-love requires self honesty,” she says. “It’s not an option.”
“When it comes to self-love and relationships, I believe that every woman, no matter how successful or beautiful she is, desires to be deeply loved. And that love has to start with herself,” she says. “Learning how to both give and receive love, to both have strong boundaries and be vulnerable enough to freely love, is a practice, one that all women can benefit from. And one that you may need some help with.”
“One of the reasons I wrote Choosing ME before WE and started the Madly in Love with ME movement, is to give women a place to connect with other women and learn from each other. We all face the same struggles and challenges, the details just look different. But when we reach out for inspiration, support and wisdom we have the power to change our lives. It is said that it will be women that change this world. But if we don’t take care of ourselves, we can’t change anything.”
Arylo encourages every woman and girl to participate in this day.
“Begin by asking yourself what you really want in life,” she says. “Then start taking the action steps to fall more and more madly in love…with you.”
About Christine Arylo
Christine Arylo is an inspirational catalyst, m.b.a, coach, teacher and speaker. Author of Choosing ME before WE, Arylo’s opinions and techniques have appeared on E! Entertainment, WGN, FOX, CBS and ABC TV as well as in radio stations, spas and business schools across the country.
An interview with Christine Arylo, self-love expert. Written by Sara Batterson.
The answer is pretty straightforward according to Christine Arylo, recovering achievement junkie and doing addict turned inspirational catalyst, author, coach and speaker…we are currently experiencing a “crisis of self-love.”
“Women today face challenges and pressures like no other generation,” she says. “The 21st century woman has more opportunities, self-confidence and independence than any generation of women before, yet something isn’t working. While this woman knows she can do anything, she feels a tremendous pressure to do, be and have everything.”
A recent study by Time Magazine states that 40% of women are the major breadwinners in their families, and 55% report that they still take care of most of the responsibilities at home. Add to that fact that 68% of women see a conflict between working and raising a family, and you can understand why so many women are exhausted, overwhelmed and no happier than their mothers and grandmothers were in the 1970s.
While more self-esteem programs are taught to girls all over this country, one in three women will be in an abusive relationship before she is 20, 80% will return. One in five women will struggle with some type of an eating disorder. Almost 50% of women will go through a divorce.
“The state of being a woman in today’s world is at a point of crisis, one in which women find themselves abundant in self-confidence, but lacking in a deep and unwavering sense of self-love, void of the societal systems to support the demands she faces every day, and a missing the camaraderie and unconditional support of other women,” Arylo says. “This lifestyle is unsustainable. We all feel it. We all know it. The time is now to bring the generations of wisdom together to do something about it.”
Arylo is on a mission to tear down the walls of misconception about self-love and reclaim its real definition.
“If you actually look up the definition of self-love on dictionary.com it say’s ‘vanity, conceit, and narcissism.’ It’s crazy! We wouldn’t tell our kids, ‘Hey you, don’t take care of yourself, don’t love yourself, don’t make your happiness a priority.’ But we tell ourselves that all the time,” she says.
While writing her book Choosing Me Before We, Every Woman’s Guide to Life and Love Arylo decided that what women needed was a self-love movement, something that could raise the awareness of self-love, making it a tangible and attainable reality for all women and girls. And so in 2009, she founded Madly in Love with ME™, the international movement of self-love.
About Madly in Love with ME™
Madly in Love with ME launches every year on the day before Valentine’s Day. On February 13th Arylo asks every woman and girl to make a promise of self-love to herself for the year, and to recommit to a life-long self-love promise to know and honor what her heart and soul desire, never settling for less.
“Without self-love, we end up in relationships and lives that don’t support or respect us, that take more than they give and that reflect our own lack of deep unconditional love for the woman we are right now, today.” she says.
To inspire and support women to take this challenge, in 2010, Madly in Love with ME events will take place on February 13th in 4 major cities – San Francisco, Chicago, Orlando and San Diego www.madlyinlovewithme.com/events These ‘Self-Luvapalooza’s’ make self-love a tangible reality for women through experiences, talks, performances, and interactive exercises led by amazing women who have struggled with and overcome the same challenges. Women who attend the flagship San Francisco event at the Claremont Resort and Spa, will spend the day with some of the top transformational teachers and performers of our time, including Marci Shimoff from The Secret and best-selling author SARK.
If the Madly in Love with Me event is not hosted in your town, Arylo encourages every woman to throw your own self-love soiree’. She’s developed an entire kit full of daring yet practical ways to bring more self-love into your life. Download the kit for free at www.madlyinlovewithme.com.
“Get clear about the areas that you do love about yourself and the areas that you don’t,” Arylo says. “Put energy into both and make it a practice.”
Arylo encourages women to start with a 40-day self-love practice in any area of her life needing more self-love – having better relationships, taking care of yourself first, treating your body like a temple, expressing yourself fully. “The yogis, metaphysicians and brain scientists agree,” explains Arylo, “that if you can do anything for 40 days you can alter patterns and beliefs that have the power to change your life.”
Arylo gives an example of a 40-day self–love practice focused on relationships.
“Ask yourself, ‘Does every relationship in my life honor and respect me?’ If the answer is no, you owe it to yourself to straighten out those relationships, or let go of the ones you can’t improve. There is no reason to have a relationship in your life that doesn’t support you to be the best you or create the life you want to live. The only reason to have a relationship is because it helps you be a better person, or it helps you live your dreams.”
“Be honest with yourself. So many of us say our lives are ‘fine’ but when you truly look at our relationships – friendships, romantic relationships, relatives – that really isn’t the case. We often refuse to face the truth because we are afraid of what the truth will require us to do. For example, we aren’t really afraid to end a relationship, we are more afraid of what people will think. We are deathly afraid of being alone. And many people can’t handle feeling like a failure. But, self-love requires self honesty,” she says. “It’s not an option.”
“When it comes to self-love and relationships, I believe that every woman, no matter how successful or beautiful she is, desires to be deeply loved. And that love has to start with herself,” she says. “Learning how to both give and receive love, to both have strong boundaries and be vulnerable enough to freely love, is a practice, one that all women can benefit from. And one that you may need some help with.”
“One of the reasons I wrote Choosing ME before WE and started the Madly in Love with ME movement, is to give women a place to connect with other women and learn from each other. We all face the same struggles and challenges, the details just look different. But when we reach out for inspiration, support and wisdom we have the power to change our lives. It is said that it will be women that change this world. But if we don’t take care of ourselves, we can’t change anything.”
Arylo encourages every woman and girl to participate in this day.
“Begin by asking yourself what you really want in life,” she says. “Then start taking the action steps to fall more and more madly in love…with you.”
About Christine Arylo
Christine Arylo is an inspirational catalyst, m.b.a, coach, teacher and speaker. Author of Choosing ME before WE, Arylo’s opinions and techniques have appeared on E! Entertainment, WGN, FOX, CBS and ABC TV as well as in radio stations, spas and business schools across the country.
Friday, January 22, 2010
What animal are you?
I was watching Dr. Phil today and he had this intersting website to go to. It's http://www.animalinyou.com/. It will tell you what animal you are! Tell the truth on the questions to get a real, truer result!
I am a penguin. I read my description and it fits me perfectly.
" Now you see it, now you don't. Aggressive yet gentle, outgoing but shy, stable yet flighty - everyone sees the penguin in a different way. It's that black and white thing: the penguin only reveals the side that it wants to you to see. So whether you like this darling-devil or not, you have to concede that it's a fascinating and enigmatic individual.
Penguins are birds condemned to live out their days on the ground. Unable to fly, their excess energy has no outlet save their creative talents and emotional outbursts. Penguins are poetic, artistic, and intellectually gifted, and as writers penguins have no equal.
But, if unable to channel their impulses in a positive way, the resulting turmoil proves damaging to their relationships and careers.
Penguins are deceptively intelligent and are particularly animated when intellectually challenged. They excel at word games and puzzles but are modest about their abilities and are generally underestimated by others.
With their misunderstood personality, penguins find writing an ideal tool for expressing their true feelings. They have a natural aptitude for languages and penguin personalities dominate the world of publishing as writers, editors, and journalists.
With a natural aptitude for languages, penguin personalities dominate the world of publishing as writers, editors and journalists. A strong sense of drama draws them to the theater and cinema, although unlike typical bird personalities they avoid the spotlight unless they're able to hide behind the characters they play. Once on stage however, they prove to be excellent performers with their multifaceted personalities conveying the full gamut of emotions.
However, a lack of confidence affects their work. Penguins tend to give up on tasks they were otherwise capable of and are often disappointed with their performance. Still, work never dominates their life and they always put their family first. "
What are you? http://www.animalinyou.com/
HAVE FUN!!!!
" Now you see it, now you don't. Aggressive yet gentle, outgoing but shy, stable yet flighty - everyone sees the penguin in a different way. It's that black and white thing: the penguin only reveals the side that it wants to you to see. So whether you like this darling-devil or not, you have to concede that it's a fascinating and enigmatic individual.
Penguins are birds condemned to live out their days on the ground. Unable to fly, their excess energy has no outlet save their creative talents and emotional outbursts. Penguins are poetic, artistic, and intellectually gifted, and as writers penguins have no equal.
But, if unable to channel their impulses in a positive way, the resulting turmoil proves damaging to their relationships and careers.
Penguins are deceptively intelligent and are particularly animated when intellectually challenged. They excel at word games and puzzles but are modest about their abilities and are generally underestimated by others.
With their misunderstood personality, penguins find writing an ideal tool for expressing their true feelings. They have a natural aptitude for languages and penguin personalities dominate the world of publishing as writers, editors, and journalists.
With a natural aptitude for languages, penguin personalities dominate the world of publishing as writers, editors and journalists. A strong sense of drama draws them to the theater and cinema, although unlike typical bird personalities they avoid the spotlight unless they're able to hide behind the characters they play. Once on stage however, they prove to be excellent performers with their multifaceted personalities conveying the full gamut of emotions.
However, a lack of confidence affects their work. Penguins tend to give up on tasks they were otherwise capable of and are often disappointed with their performance. Still, work never dominates their life and they always put their family first. "
What are you? http://www.animalinyou.com/
HAVE FUN!!!!
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
{CLOSED} ORGLAMIX Review and Giveaway!
GIVEAWAY TIME! Yes, you read right, Cheri is allowing me to giveaway a color collection or 3 shades!
How to enter:
What is your favorite color or color collection from Orglamix?-Fan Orglamix on Facebook.
-Follow Orglamix on Twitter.
-Tweet this review && Giveaway on twitter. (Unlimited, just comment each time you tweet)
-Blog about this review && Giveaway on your blog. (make sure to leave the URL of your blog post)
*Contest is for 18+ and those who reside in the USA or Canada. Contest end date Feb 2 2010 @ 11:59pm.
*I received a color collection for the review.
Monday, January 18, 2010
No Phone Zone
I am a true believer not to use your cell phone while driving, unless it's hands free. I have signed the pledge a few months ago at Mom Sends the Msg. Today Oprah had a wonderful, moving show about cell phone use while driving. Cell phone use while driving is 4x worse than driving drunk. You can sign Oprah's Pledge on her website at Oprah's No Phone Zone.
Friday, January 15, 2010
Madly in Love with ME™ Manifesta && Giveaway!
My definition of self-love is whole hearted happiness. There is nothing better than happiness that you make for yourself. I found that no one can make you happy, only yourself. Happiness is waking up in the morning and loving every moment, hearing your children run around and laugh and giggle. Happiness is a simple kiss and I love you from your child.
Loving yourself feels so good, it’s like curling up on the couch and watching your favorite TV show with no interruptions. Fall in love with yourself and see a different world.
I am inviting you to share your own on my blog (*email it at wholelottamama(at)hotmail(dot)com along with a picture of you, and I will post it on my blog!) and the Facebook contest site where you can enter to win more prizes! We will send all manifestas that we receive to dictionary.com as a petition to change their current definition of self-love (which is 'conceit, vanity and narcissism! OMG!!)
The Madly in Love with ME™ Giveaway:
One of my readers will win the ME heart token necklace!
The one requirement for you to participate is to download the free ME-Love kit and leave a comment here:
- The self-love dare you took and why?
- The self -love vow you took and why?
- Both the dare and vows are in the Madly in Love with ME™ kit. You must download this kit to take and share your self-love dare or vow in order to be a part of the giveaway contest.
*Disclaimer - I am working with Christine Arylo as part of this blog campaign. I have received the product, that is in the giveaway. Contest is open to all women 18+ in the USA && Canada! Contest end date is February 13, 2010 @ 11:59PM CST.
*Your writing && picture belongs to you. I will not sell nor keep it for myself. By emailing it to me, you are giving me permission to use it on my blog one time only. Any questions please contact me.
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Team Over For Cottonelle along with a contest!
Hello! If you leave a comment on this post you will be entered to win 1 in 10 Cottenelle Gift Baskets, that will be randomly choosen on Jan 29, 2010!
I am entering a contest for a month's worth of Cottonelle toilet paper as a member of the Mom Bloggers Club.
UPDATE: I was one of the 200 bloggers who won a months supply of cottonelle toilet paper! YAY!
Help Haiti!
There was a rumor that started at Twitter saying that we could send up to a 50 lb. donation to Haiti through UPS. This is not true! http://blog.ups.com/2010/01/13/ups-donates-1-million-to-haitian-relief-%e2%80%93-here%e2%80%99s-how-you-can-help/
More Press release from UPS http://www.ups.com/content/us/en/about/news/service_updates/2010013_earthquake_ht.html
BUT...
You can send a text to donate $10.00 to Haiti! Go here to read more!
More Press release from UPS http://www.ups.com/content/us/en/about/news/service_updates/2010013_earthquake_ht.html
You can send a text to donate $10.00 to Haiti! Go here to read more!
Wednesday, January 06, 2010
Been MIA
Hi Everyone! Yes, I have been MIA for a little bit. But I am still here and still breathing lol. Anyways, My internet has been down and I have been crazy busy since Christmas time...trying to get life back together! I am also starting school up starting today! Yay! Check back later this week, I will be having a review and giveaway on Orglamix! YAY!
TTYL!
Kristin
TTYL!
Kristin
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